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The following missive dedicated to use of stinging nettle in CBT is based on experience. It is clearly not suitable for any one allergic to stinging nettles. Arm yourself with a pair of thick gloves.

Cut down a good quantity of fresh nettles. The best ones are young with pliable stems. A shopping bag full is about fine.

Take a nettle and brush it against the head of your penis. If you haven’t got an erection so far, this should bring one on. It doesn’t hurt much, the sensation is rather good in fact.

Brush some more nettles against your penis, the shaft as well. Gradually a rash will appear and little bumps. Keep going. The more you do, the greater the numbing effect so the next bit will be easier.

Take a handfull of nettles and crush them hard onto your penis. This may hurt, but rub them in well. You can also take a nettle stalk (which is also covered in stingers) and wrap it around the shaft or behind the head. This is a good way of getting the poison in.

Keep going with more nettles. As the poison gets in, the small bumps will join up. This is the desired effect. As you keep on, the bumps turn into a large all over swelling. The more you do, the greater the swelling until your penis will be stretched real tight, bursting against its skin. An increase of about 50% in girth over a normal erection.
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Wax play is a form of sensual play involving warm or hot wax usually dripped from candles or ladled onto a person’s naked skin. Hot wax in sex play is used to increase adrenalin and thus arousal. It is a very distinctive and unique sensation. Very intense, but concentrated in a very small area. Hot wax applied improperly is dangerous. Using the wrong melting point wax and/or not checking temperature of the molten wax can result in up to third degree burns, requiring immediate attention by a physician.

The first and most apparent danger with hot wax play is burns. Candle wax for BDSM play should not cause burns. The exact temperature of a candle flames depends on the material being burned. Different waxes will have different flame temperatures. On average, the maximum flame temperature will be about 2550 deg F. The degree of heat of the dripping wax varies depending on the materials from which the candle is constructed.

There are many different types of candles available. Use plain 100% paraffin candles, these burn at a safer temperature for hot wax play. Beeswax is the hottest. Avoid beeswax candles. Beeswax burns at a much higher temperature than plain paraffin candles and can cause burns. The melting point is much higher than human skin can comfortably deal with. Some experienced players do use this type of candle. It can cause second or third degree burns. Avoid beef tallow candles. Wax made from animal fat can be extremely hot and cause burning. Avoid candles with metallic colors. These often contain poisonous metalic salts. Avoid candles with metal wicks, metal wick can drip hot molten metal on the submissive. Avoid scented candles. Scented candles burn at a higher temperature and may cause scalding. Perfumes, hardeners, and other additives can, and have, caused serious allergic reactions.
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Missive by J & e (BDSM 24/7).

Big disclaimer: The following is based on our experience only. Neither of us claim any special expertise or knowledge.

Breast pumping and labia pumping are not painful. After the cylinder has been removed pumping is not generally physically intense for the person who has been pumped. And, the sensation is much more subtle than it looks. However to the touch or tongue it feels fantastic.

When e is pumped and the vacuum is strong an intensity can build. However, it is not so much painful as uncomfortable. The only time e finds it as intense or painful is at the beginning if pumped too fast or when, after a long while of being held under vacuum, there builds a soreness and discomfort, which is almost immediately relieved upon release of vacuum and removal of the cylinder.

It is important to not over pump initially, because the full effects of the pumping is not felt immediately. There is a delay as the vacuum continues to slowly draw tissue into the cylinder – for e, this is an interesting and somewhat pleasurable sensation and can last from a few minutes to upward of 10 minutes.

For e when the vacuum is released on her labia there is not normally a great deal of sensation aside from the actual release of the vacuum and removal of the cylinder – her pussy is somewhat desensitized by that time. However, to the touch (hers or mine) it feels very good to the hand and to my mouth and tongue.
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Tits nailing is a form of SM edge play involving hammering nails through the breast. Of course it hurts much more then play piercing because of the size of the nails, and also the hammering. But it can be done probably with a minimal amoung of pain. It is safe if done with care and forethought, with proper before and aftercare (antiseptic and keeping the wounds clean).

Nailing releases a flood of endorphins. And a lot of the thrill for both sadist and masochist comes from the picture in the mind. There you are held to something by your tits, you can’t move away there is a certain power in this for the sadist, and a total submission on the part of the masochist. There is a particular emotional/psychological dimension to driving a nail through a submissive’s breast or nipple that may be different in its primality and in its intensity from standard needle play, just as there is a difference, even, paradoxical or enigmatic as it may sound, a difference in intimacy, between the typical techniques of standard needle play and pushing a needle full-length into a girl’s nipple from the top or skewering her breast with a longer needle. Remember, it is never done without talk first with your submissive.

The nails used should be smooth and sharp. Infection is the biggest risk here. Therefore the nails used should be very smooth, with no microscopic debris that may be left in the breast. Ridges and twists found in many nails are good places for bacteria and other organic material to linger. Scarring is dependant upon a number of factors including, but not limited to, the particular characteristics of the flesh, any sort of stretching that’s done and the size of the nail. We recomend using small diameter round nails, like finishing nails perhaps (not screw nails).
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Needle play, play piercing or recreational acupuncture is an activity involving placing needles through the top layer of skin, or using needles for temporary piercings for the purpose of enjoying the experience rather than producing a permanent body decoration. Needles are removed from the body when the episode is complete, allowing the wounds to heal. Those who engage in play piercing may do so for self-expression, as a part of a ritual imitating mock tribal cultures, for the purpose of spiritual self-discovery, for sexual pleasure, for simple entertainment, raising awareness or relieving boredom. Needle play is considered edge play – the practice which involves significant risk of injury or physical harm.

Needle play or play piercing is different from regular piercing as it’s temporary and doesn’t involve jewellery. During a scene thin needles are stuck through the skin (close to the surface), possibly manipulated during play, and then taken out afterwards, usually with no lasting marks. It can involve one needle or whole rows or a pattern of them, sometimes laced together with threads. The pain received from a needle is a different kind of pain though. It’s more of a flash and then depending on the part of the body it fades to a dull throb and then nothing. But that initial flash is what draws to it.
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Leather and rope can both be cut, not made secure and dangerously tight. Steel bondage involves metal restraints, usually made of iron or steel, such as handcuffs or shackles. This is the best way for those who like realism in bondage. Steel bondage appeals to people for a number of reasons: there is the contrast between the soft flesh and hard steel, steel bondage has a feeling of inescapability about it, it is also quick to apply and requires little forethought or planning.

Due to the unforgiving nature of metal versus flesh, steel bondage has its own set of safety issues. Unfortunately, many tops who use handcuffs are not familiar with their tools. This can cause damage to their subs. If followed, the rules below will allow tops and bottoms to enjoy their scenes more.
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From prehistoric days mankind has needed, used and hated the stinging nettle. An enemy of the farmer and gardener, the bane of children’s bare knees, and an instrument of torture with which medieval monks flagellated their bare backs, the plant has been reviled by one generation after another. Since the discovery of the holly leaf being a great torment to submissive and slaves alike… the idea of the stinging nettle came into question in the BDSM world.

In places where stinging nettles are abundant, such as Northern Europe, every child learns quickly to fear and avoid this plant. When fighting or doing nonsense, a child may sometimes chase or fling another child into nettles – a possibly traumatic experience which can amplify a fear into a phobia. The concept of being deliberately punished with stinging nettles is therefore extremely fearsome.

Hot, intense burn of a nettle can last for up to 24 hours. The sensation takes a long time to cool and you’re aware of it the entire time due to the almost electric tingle through the area effected. Reactions vary, but most spankees show an intense burning irritation, which is also visible as reddening, and a series of little lumps, like small mosquito bites is common. The effect is very similar to the warm feeling that comes just after the sharp pain of a whipstroke fades. This is wonderful for longterm BDSM sessions or verbal and light play in public. However there is an opinion that regular use of nettles for many spankees seems to lead to a partial immunity.
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Clothespins can be a wonderful addition to BDSM play and are relatively easy to learn how to use. Many new comers to the BDSM start with things like clothespins. Clothespins are usually used to give the sensation of pain to certain body parts. They can create many sensations and even increase the intensity of orgasm. With some caution and imagination clothespins can be used in any number of deviously enjoyable ways.

Most frequently, clothespins are used on the tits, especially on nipples. Clothespins can be placed on the nipples in many positions. You can start from clothespins pointing straight onto the nipple, not from the side, gripping the base of the nipple, not the tip. This does not have the same sort of ‘bite’ as grasping the nipple alone may, and often does wonderful things for sensitivity without causing pain. Pointing straight out is an especially deviant way to clothespin your partner.
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Bastinado (falanga, phalanga, falaka, falaqa) was a Spanish word for the act of punishment in the basic sense of beating with a stick or similar implement. The word ‘baston’, in English ‘baton’, means a stick or club. Falanga, phalanga, falaka, falaqa – variants of the same word which is used in countries, such as Persia, Turkey, Greece and in general the Muslim countries, to refer to a small crop like weapon to inflict punishment to the soles of the feet. It is a thick and long pole with a rope tied at its ends. Bastinado is a form of corporal punishment whereby the soles of the feet are beaten with a cane, a cudgel, a rod, a stick, a piece of wood, a club, or a whip.
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Caning is corporal punishment with a cane, generally on the buttocks, palm or the soles of the feet. It was a common punishment throughout Europe and North America for many centuries, but has now been banned in most countries.

A cane is a long stick, generally of bamboo, malacca (rattan), or some similar plant, used as a walking stick; as a support for growing plants; for marking out a piece of ground; or as a material for consturcting furniture or buildings. Rattan canes are used to beat the buttocks or palm as a form of corporal punishment.

Caning was practiced as a judicial punishment for juveniles but was best known as a method of discipline in schools. Use of the cane was standard in English schools of all descriptions throughout the 19th and most of the 20th centuries, with the frequency and severity of canings determined by the traditions of the school. Judicial caning, carried out with a long rattan rod, was a feature of some colonial judicial systems.
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