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Wax play is a form of sensual play involving warm or hot wax usually dripped from candles or ladled onto a person’s naked skin. Hot wax in sex play is used to increase adrenalin and thus arousal. It is a very distinctive and unique sensation. Very intense, but concentrated in a very small area. Hot wax applied improperly is dangerous. Using the wrong melting point wax and/or not checking temperature of the molten wax can result in up to third degree burns, requiring immediate attention by a physician.

The first and most apparent danger with hot wax play is burns. Candle wax for BDSM play should not cause burns. The exact temperature of a candle flames depends on the material being burned. Different waxes will have different flame temperatures. On average, the maximum flame temperature will be about 2550 deg F. The degree of heat of the dripping wax varies depending on the materials from which the candle is constructed.

There are many different types of candles available. Use plain 100% paraffin candles, these burn at a safer temperature for hot wax play. Beeswax is the hottest. Avoid beeswax candles. Beeswax burns at a much higher temperature than plain paraffin candles and can cause burns. The melting point is much higher than human skin can comfortably deal with. Some experienced players do use this type of candle. It can cause second or third degree burns. Avoid beef tallow candles. Wax made from animal fat can be extremely hot and cause burning. Avoid candles with metallic colors. These often contain poisonous metalic salts. Avoid candles with metal wicks, metal wick can drip hot molten metal on the submissive. Avoid scented candles. Scented candles burn at a higher temperature and may cause scalding. Perfumes, hardeners, and other additives can, and have, caused serious allergic reactions.

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So paraffin is the best type of wax. Paraffin waxes are very stable. They do not chemically react with either concentrated alkalines or acids. Straight unadulterated paraffin wax is unlikely to cause any sort of reaction. However unless you make your own candles you probably won’t be able to get pure old paraffin wax. The plain white candles are probably the most trustworthy. They are usually relatively pure, cheap and utilitarian. They usually don’t have the hardeners which make the melting temperature shoot up.

Color does affect the temperature at which candles melt. Darker colors also mean more additives. Red candles tend to drip hotter than black or white. Additives do make a difference, but the ones to watch out for are hardeners such as those used in dripless candles. These are generally various sorts of oil-soluble dyes and, for some, can be a skin irritant. Some of these dyes can also stain both skin and clothing. It is best to start off with wax that has no added colors.

A good candy thermometer is required to determine the temperature of the melted wax. Some temperatures at which wax become liquid (melt):
Raw paraffin (soft): 115°-126°F
Votive candles (harder): 131°-141°F
Taper-type candles (hard): 141°F or higher
Hurricane lamp candles (hard): 154°F or higher
Beeswax (waxy to hard): 146°F or higher

If you spill hot water at temperatures above 140°F on yourself, you will likely get a burn. However, scalding water doesn’t stick to the skin, hot wax does. Wax also retains heat, so 140°F and hotter wax is very likely going to create an even nastier burn than water at the same temperature. As a general rule, the wax temperature at skin contact should never be above about 135°F. The ideal working temperature at skin contact is generally around 120°-125°F.

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The best way to see how a candle feels is to test it out on yourself. The temperature of wax can be tested on the inside of your wrist. Use the sensitive skin on your wrist or elbow to get a feel for how hot this candle is. Never use hot wax on a submissive that you haven’t tested the temperature on your own body first. Make sure your submissive is not wearing any oil basic lotions / perfume.

It is easiest to have the bottom horizontal, although vertical is possible. Put a drop cloth or towel under him to catch the wax during dripping and especially during removal. Place and light some candles along his body if you wish. Wax play may be combined with other BDSM or sexual activity. Many people find that being tied and blindfolded during wax play heightens the sensations, not knowing where the next drop will fall, and being unable to move away from it can add a great deal to the erotic sensations.

The temperature of the wax hitting the submissive is regulated by the distance the candle is held above the submissive. The temperature becomes cooler in proportion to its height. To start out, hold the candle high over the body, 2-3ft, the higher the better, because the further the distance a drop of hot wax travels, the cooler it will be, and the faster it will chill and become room temperature (solid) when it hits the body. You can adjust the temperature of the wax by increasing or decreasing the distance between the candle and the skin. Watch the bottom, not the candle. Drop a few drops and carefully note your partner’s reaction. People have a tendency to stop when that first drop hits. Don’t. Go for a steady series of drops. If you stop and too much liquid wax builds up near the flame, you could tip that off into a tissue (unless the bottom would appreciate receiving it at that point in the scene). Then you can get closer, to see what works best for you victim.

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Drip little bits of wax at varying heights and areas of the body to help the submissive get into headspace and to help build up a tolerance. Go for a steady series of drops. Rotate the candles around while dripping so it burns evenly or a smooth pour from the larger candles. Gradually lower the candle to see the effect. Constantly, drip the wax at various heights and different areas. Different areas of the body may not be able to tolerate as much as other areas i.e. private sensitive areas. Make various designs. You can create beautiful artwork, using a naked body as the canvas. Use your imagination. But remember pooling is bad, so if you have a pool of wax, dump if off on the ground, or blow out the candle, let it cool off, and re-light it. Also remember that if you drop wax on top of wax, it will hold the heat in and possibly cause burns, so be careful when you layer.

For females, the breasts, nipples and vagina can be very erotic. For males, the thighs, cock and balls are especially sensitive. You can make a “penis mold” by totally coating the area. Some of the most sensitive areas on both sexes are the inner thighs, the area of the belly that joins the hip, the nipples, and the genitals. It would be better to begin in a less sensitive area, moving to an occasionally drop on a highly sensitive one. Don’t use hot wax on the head and face.

Jar candles are nice you can get a lot of wax in a little time. You can pour it on slowly or cover them with a large amount at one time. BDSM waxplay jar candles does not stick to hair, so this is good for hairy male submissive or female that does not shave down below. You can use all types of fun stuff to get the wax on the submissive from a coffee cup, turkey baster, spoon, paint brush (don’t use anything that you will want to use later ) also you can pour it into cup.

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Ice and/or cold water should be kept on hand for accidents or simply to alternate the sensations. If you combine wax play with ice play, you can give them the feeling that their skin is being burned off without getting them more than pink. You should also keep very cold water or ice and burn ointment nearby in the event of an accidental burn.

Removing the wax can be just as erotic and full of sensation as the actual waxing. This can also be a very fun part of the scene. As it pulls away from the skin, the sensation is again intense, and running a feather or fingernails or even a tongue over this sensitized skin is a very sexy way to prolong the waxing session. It is easiest to use a comb held sideways to scrape off the wax. Beat it off, if you going to do a flogging after a waxing, you will beat most of it off. After removing the majority of the wax, try using a knife to scrape the wax off or rubbing with baby oil. Do not use a sharp knife to do this. The skin is very sensitive once the wax is removed. There will be reddening of the skin but this should clear up in a few hours at the most.

Some people advocate oiling the skin before you drop the wax. This will make the cleanup much easier, as the wax does not adhere, but you must remember the oil will make the wax seem a bit hotter.

Avoid recycling the wax used on the genital area as you cannot sterilize the wax short of heating it to temperatures that will cause the wax to begin to smoke and possibly ignite.



One Response to Wax Play

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  • D says:

    Very informative article for a newbie to wax play. Pretty much answered all the questions I had at this time.

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