Today, 2 June 2010, is the 270th anniversary of Marquis de Sade birth. The French writer of psychological and philosophical works Donatien Alphonse François, Comte de Sade (1740-1814), was a libertine, debaucher, pornographer, and famous sadist. Recently, new interpretations of his life and writings have begun to appear. It is now generally agreed that despite his reputation, his works, which were ignored for over a century, must be considered as of the first rank. Sade has been termed the “most absolute writer who has ever lived.”
Very little is known of Sade’s life. Donatien Alphonse François de Sade was born on June 2, 1740, in Paris into an aristocratic family. He was the only surviving child of Jean-Baptiste de Sade and his wife Marie-Eléonore de Maillé, a distant cousin of the Prince de Conde. His family had been ennobled in the 12th century and remained a major power-broker in the southern region of Provence.
He grew up on various country estates, including an ancient castle with a dank, miserable dungeon, which no doubt played a factor in his developing psyche. Aged four, de Sade was sent to Avignon into the care of his uncle, Abbe de Sade, whose sexual life was notoriously irregular. After this period de Sade attended the Jesuit college of Louis Le Grand. Unlike the current Catholic school setup, in which youngsters are subjected to mostly mental abuse and surreptitious molestation, the Jesuits of the day included public whippings as part of the daily routine.
A collar in BDSM lyfestyle is not something to be given lightly. It is symbolic of a serious commitment of ownership and bears the same importance as a wedding ring. A collar symbolizes not only ownership, commitment, love and devotion, but embodies the qualities of honor, respect and trust.
Collars can be made from lighter materials such as cotton, or heavier materials such as leather. Most traditional collars are made of leather or metal and have a ring(s) embedded in them. There are also collars made specifically for show, these are usually more ornate in design and not meant to use in bondage, though some can be depending on the construction. As the wearing of a traditional collar can interrupt with work and other real life duties, some submissives wear chokers. These can be pearls, ribbons, a cameo or some other close fitting necklace. Collars often feature buckles, straps and hooks, padlocks and other attachments. Steel collars are also worn by some and lockable (metal) necklaces are also regarded as a form of collar. A very few even choose to wear permanently locking collars (these click into place and have no unlocking key), that cannot be removed except by cutting the steel.
Below are examples of the several different types of collars often presented.
Sheila fretted on her Master’s bed. She lay face down into the pillow, her wrists cuffed to her ankles. Her bared bottom was high in the air making her vulnerability and shame complete.
She had been in this position many times before awaiting her Master’s pleasure. But tonight was very different as she had angered her Master like never before. She had gone too far tonight and His face had been purple with rage. One look from Him had her hurrying home from the party in some distress.
The night had began well enough with Master taking her along to meet His many friends, the majority being Masters like Himself accompanied by their slaves. It was Sheila’s first party and she was determined to make Him proud of her and also to have a good time. She dressed very carefully in her black leather mini skirt and matching halter-top. She wore thigh high leather boots and wore her favourite gold Celtic jewelry, which Master had given to her when He had collared her and made her His slave. Her full lips she coloured fuchsia pink to match her nails. There was one thing missing, but Master came in and adorned her neck with His collar. She was complete. He smiled at her and she her eyes shone, as she knew He was pleased with her appearance.
Wax play is a form of sensual play involving warm or hot wax usually dripped from candles or ladled onto a person’s naked skin. Hot wax in sex play is used to increase adrenalin and thus arousal. It is a very distinctive and unique sensation. Very intense, but concentrated in a very small area. Hot wax applied improperly is dangerous. Using the wrong melting point wax and/or not checking temperature of the molten wax can result in up to third degree burns, requiring immediate attention by a physician.
The first and most apparent danger with hot wax play is burns. Candle wax for BDSM play should not cause burns. The exact temperature of a candle flames depends on the material being burned. Different waxes will have different flame temperatures. On average, the maximum flame temperature will be about 2550 deg F. The degree of heat of the dripping wax varies depending on the materials from which the candle is constructed.
There are many different types of candles available. Use plain 100% paraffin candles, these burn at a safer temperature for hot wax play. Beeswax is the hottest. Avoid beeswax candles. Beeswax burns at a much higher temperature than plain paraffin candles and can cause burns. The melting point is much higher than human skin can comfortably deal with. Some experienced players do use this type of candle. It can cause second or third degree burns. Avoid beef tallow candles. Wax made from animal fat can be extremely hot and cause burning. Avoid candles with metallic colors. These often contain poisonous metalic salts. Avoid candles with metal wicks, metal wick can drip hot molten metal on the submissive. Avoid scented candles. Scented candles burn at a higher temperature and may cause scalding. Perfumes, hardeners, and other additives can, and have, caused serious allergic reactions.
A martyr is a person who is put to death or endures suffering because of a belief, principle, or cause. The themes of torture, sadism and captivity have been touched on by many horror films of the 2000s. “Martyrs” is the first film that could be called “torture porn” that doesn’t come from a conflicted moral point of view. On the surface, the film looks a lot like “Hostel” or “Saw”. Beneath the skin, though, it has much more in common with “Funny Games” or “Irreversible”, films where graphic violence isn’t just a series of vicarious thrills that are the entire reason for the film’s existence. “Martyrs” tells a story in a grotesque, mysterious way while hinting at possible religious motifs throughout. Not for the faint of heart this film starts off with scenes of female torture and really stays in an apologetically dark tone during the show. Progressing to more strange territory in the later half of the film viewers will need to prepare for director Pascal Laugier’s shock and awe visual assault that will surprise the senses. For those sadists and masochists who appreciate pure horror and intelligent moviemaking, “Martyrs” is a real find.
“Martyrs” is a French film. The French can make very strong horror movies. If the audience is open-minded and strong-willed enough to go along with “Martyrs”, they’ll find a movie that is possibly the best of the recent spate of high quality horror films coming out of France. The film is written and directed by Pascal Laugier. “Martyrs” stars Morjana Alaoui as Anna and Mylene Jampanoi as Lucie with support given by Catherine Begin as Mademoiselle, Robert Toupin as Le pere, and Isabelle Chasse as La Creature.
BDSM is not a solo practice. You need at least one other partner to safely satisfy that urge, whether you are dominant or submissive. Finding a BDSM partner is not easy and it takes time and patience.
There are many ways to find a partner. Ads in specialized magazines, social gatherings in the lifestyle (munches) where people in the BDSM lifestyle meet in a non-threatening situation. Also play party (private or public), introductions from other lifestylers, internet with forums, chat rooms (a good places to get to know others with same or similar interests) and dating websites. Some links with the biggest dating sites you can find below.
On the Internet you can find web sites and chat rooms in which there are people who are living a 24/7 BDSM relationship and they want the same for themselves. They crave that intimacy and bond that an established relationship has. They crave the sensations that physical BDSM activities give them, and the euphoria with which many people describe their sessions.
You should remember that there are about 3 times more men than women in the lifestyle. There are about 4 male Doms for every female sub and it makes the search hard. There are always a lot more ads for male Doms looking for a female submissive then there are ads for female submissive doing a search for a Dom. There are not many female Doms looking for a male sub. About 25 percent of players switch in some form. The best partner for a switch is a switch.
The garrote, also known as garrote vil, garotte and garrotte – the execution device used by the Spaniards until the end of Francisco Franco’s dictatorship as recently as 1974. In Spain, it was abolished, as well as the death penalty, in 1978 with the new constitution. Originally, it was an execution where the convict was killed by hitting him with a club (“garrote” in Spanish). Later, it was refined and consisted of a seat to restrain the condemned person while the executioner tightened a metal band around his neck with a crank or a wheel until suffocation of the executee. With the handle the executioner slowly crushed the victim’s neck causing death from asphyxia.
This device has a Spanish name because it was improved in Spain. It is not clear how complete earlier records are and even modern ones are somewhat patchy. But at least 736 people, including 16 women, were executed in Spain in the 19th century. 65 men and 2 women were executed by garroting between 1950 and 1974 in various parts of Spain. The first woman to be garroted was Juana Rivero in Madrid on the 3rd of November 1824 for robbery. Twenty seven year old Mariana Pineda became the first woman to suffer for treason when she was executed on the 26th of May 1831 in Andalusia. It was reported that the spike of the garrote pierced her neck and protruded through her mouth. Garroting was last used on the 2nd of March 1974, when two men were executed on the same day for the shooting of a police officer during a robbery.
“Dare… to Try Bondage” by Axterdam is part of the new Dare series on sexuality published by Hunter House. This book is recommended to those who want to know and/or try bondage. Bondage is not without danger, and yet it opens the door to dramatic new pleasures. Whether a complete newcomer or a seasoned bondage expert, sexual adventurers can use this guide for simple, necessary instructions, scenarios, techniques, and advice. Including chapters on shibari (the Japanese art of knot-tying), appropriate equipment, conducting a satisfying session, and what sensations to expect, this guide is a comprehensive resource for both men and women who are seeking sexual liberation and pleasure through restraint. Those who are shy to go into the sex section of bookstores to learn and read about bondage, well this is the book for you.
It is a quick read and teaches almost everything you wanted to know about bondage. What is nice about this book is that there are illustrations and background information the author gives, including personal experiences. The author wanted to share his knowledge with his friends and more so he wrote this very interesting book. The author gives background information from personal experience. He wrote it for his friends in mind, who kept asking him questions.
French artist and author Axterdam’s illustrations of the Japanese rope-tying art of Shibari, also known as Kinbaku, bring to life the simple yet visually striking patterns of “beautiful bondage.” Axterdam is well known in the world of amateur erotic imagery; his drawings are considered inspirational in the universe of fetishism. He published his Carnets d’un obsede (Notes of an Obsessive) in 2003.
Missive by J & e (BDSM 24/7).
Big disclaimer: The following is based on our experience only. Neither of us claim any special expertise or knowledge.
Breast pumping and labia pumping are not painful. After the cylinder has been removed pumping is not generally physically intense for the person who has been pumped. And, the sensation is much more subtle than it looks. However to the touch or tongue it feels fantastic.
When e is pumped and the vacuum is strong an intensity can build. However, it is not so much painful as uncomfortable. The only time e finds it as intense or painful is at the beginning if pumped too fast or when, after a long while of being held under vacuum, there builds a soreness and discomfort, which is almost immediately relieved upon release of vacuum and removal of the cylinder.
It is important to not over pump initially, because the full effects of the pumping is not felt immediately. There is a delay as the vacuum continues to slowly draw tissue into the cylinder – for e, this is an interesting and somewhat pleasurable sensation and can last from a few minutes to upward of 10 minutes.
For e when the vacuum is released on her labia there is not normally a great deal of sensation aside from the actual release of the vacuum and removal of the cylinder – her pussy is somewhat desensitized by that time. However, to the touch (hers or mine) it feels very good to the hand and to my mouth and tongue.
Stockroom University Hosts Social Celebrating A Decade Of Mr. Los Angeles Leather During L.A. Leather Week 2010. The Stockroom, Inc – one of the world’s leading manufacturers and retailers of bondage gear and fetish wear – is throwing a meet and greet social celebrating 10 years of Mr. Los Angeles Leather contests on Thursday, March 25th from 7 till 9 pm at the company’s headquarters on Sunset Boulevard in Silverlake. The event kicks off a new series for Stockroom University, the company’s ongoing education program, and is part of the power-packed L.A. Leather Week 2010 schedule.
Guests attending the mixer in Stockroom’s stylish retail space can meet and rub shoulders with former and current leather title-holders while enjoying cocktails (and sexy bartenders) from MJs in Silverlake. They’ll also be able to smell, fondle and play with the premium leather and rubber gear The Stockroom is famous for. And they’re invited to take an exclusive tour of Stockroom’s design studio and production floors – which are upstairs from the Sunset Boulevard storefront – to see how the company’s signature handcrafted leather restraints, slings and gear – and the couture-quality latex rubber fetish wear Stockroom offers through subsidiary Syren Latex – are made.
The Decade of Mr. Los Angeles Leather social is free and open to anyone over 21. For questions about the social, please contact Stockroom’s Los Angeles retail store anytime between noon and 10 pm at (213) 989-0334.