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A collar in BDSM lyfestyle is not something to be given lightly. It is symbolic of a serious commitment of ownership and bears the same importance as a wedding ring. A collar symbolizes not only ownership, commitment, love and devotion, but embodies the qualities of honor, respect and trust.

Collars can be made from lighter materials such as cotton, or heavier materials such as leather. Most traditional collars are made of leather or metal and have a ring(s) embedded in them. There are also collars made specifically for show, these are usually more ornate in design and not meant to use in bondage, though some can be depending on the construction. As the wearing of a traditional collar can interrupt with work and other real life duties, some submissives wear chokers. These can be pearls, ribbons, a cameo or some other close fitting necklace. Collars often feature buckles, straps and hooks, padlocks and other attachments. Steel collars are also worn by some and lockable (metal) necklaces are also regarded as a form of collar. A very few even choose to wear permanently locking collars (these click into place and have no unlocking key), that cannot be removed except by cutting the steel.

Below are examples of the several different types of collars often presented.

A Collar of Consideration or Protection.

This collar is traditionally given at the very beginning of a potential relationship. The existence of the collar of consideration indicates to other Dominant’s and submissives that the Dominant and submissive are forming a potentially serious relationship. This collar is offered seriously and with intent. The submissive in accepting this collar from the Dominant is equally serious in their understanding that their relationship has moved into a different stage.

This particular collar is worn by new submissive at various events to show that he/she is under the protection of a Dominant. You may have seen a collar of protection worn by a slave during a play party aligning them with the Dominant that had granted the Protection. All approaches to the submissive wearing this collar should be made through the Dominant whose protection he/she is under. It is usually placed upon the neck of the submissive at the party in full view and taken off after. Making it very clear that this is only for protection purposes. During this time however, the slave will act as if this dominant is the rightful Master or Mistress and refer to them in all areas of service. This “under protection” slave may not be played with, without the permission and in most cases presence of the Dominant in charge for that time period. The collar acts to openly declare to other dominant’s that this submissive is “off-limits” and that honourable dominant’s should not pursue this submissive in any manner. However, the slave retains to right to request a playtime with a specific person or reject it respectfully. This is a temporary collar that it is normally returned after the event has adjourned.

A collar of consideration can be by a bracelet, waist chain, anklet or other choice. The traditional or customary representation of the collar of consideration is a leather collar in some shade of blue. The actual shade of color is not as important as the color itself. This will usually be a very simple collar with no lock or key. No D-ring or one that is very small.

A Training Collar.

This collar represents the second collar exchanged between a Dominant and a submissive. Typically a prelude to a formal collar it is utilized while the sub/slave is being taught and is still learning the specific duties expected by her/his Dominant. In many cases the Dominant and submissive may consider or try living together actively.

The training collar is offered by the Dominant after they have engaged in a period of time where they have held extensive conversations with the submissive and explored characteristics, traits, interests, sexual needs, desires and lifestyles to see if they consider themselves to be a good match in enough areas to move into a relationship of deeper commitment. In many ways this is where the relationship is truly tested physically, mentally and emotionally.

The acceptance of this collar by the submissive indicates that the submissive agrees to pursue a much deeper relationship with the Dominant which will involve or may, serious feelings, emotions, commitments and responsibilities. Most enter a deeper emotional stage at this point and may begin to express true devotion, love, honour and mutual respect.

During this time period he/she is a mere submissive. Submissive is belonging to Dominant, is under training for a specific time frame or for duration. At this point of the journey, he/she is considered the submissive of the dominant, but no contract has been set up as of yet. Submissive could consider this the engagement time. Submissive courtship is over and he/she steady training has begun. Now actions carry consequences and more often or not this is the making or breaking period for many slaves and Dominants. This period of time can vary from couple to couple. It used to be a minimum of 2 years, but each hold their own stock on it. If after this time, the submissive has proven to be the right one and the Master or Mistress also, again yes it goes from both ends, then next stage can be an official Collaring Ceremony.

The traditional training collar is often made of leather. It is generally very plain and may be either red or black. Many Dominants alternatively offer a training collar in chain.

Formal or Slave Collar, or Permanent Collar.

Is given by the Dominant as a symbol of the bond between them. It represents love, honor, respect, and loyalty. This collar is usually presented during a ceremony in front of witnesses and is often accompanied by a permanent mark on the submissive/slave. It is a recognition of commitment, deep emotional feelings, devotion, mutual respect and consideration.

Joy of joys and privilege of privileges. This is the representation of the final stage of commitment. It expresses the belief that the dominant and submissive share a genuine and growing desire to share in each others lives, perhaps the rest of their lives. You are now the honored slave of your Dominant and are fully belonging to him or her. At this point a contract may be drawn up, not unlike a marriage license with both making their rights and responsibilities known to all in attendant. This is one of the most wonderful moments in a slave’s life. It is also a very special moment in the life of a Dominant. You now have achieved something most can only dream about. Usually this collar is presented in a 24/7 lifestyle setting and the slave if lucky is present in the household of the Master or Mistress.

The traditional appearance of the slave collar is a collar made of black leather or metal which is adorned by brass or silver objects or designs. This collar is created specifically for the individual submissive and is often an original design. You may see the addition of a lock and key. A lockable collar may further symbolize a transfer of power from the submissive to the dominant holding the key. Perhaps even a tag that may be attached to the D-ring.

An Ownership Collar.

In some extreme cases the slave isn’t enough. Slave wants to be owned, fully and completely. Slave wants to be the absolute property of the Master/Mistress wants to give the gift of complete life and soul. At this point the Contract is resigned, redone and finalized. You are now no longer your own person, but the property of another human being. This is not only the greatest of honors for a slave but for the Master or Mistress as well. Master or Mistress is Owner from now.
This is a very deep and emotional step, which has gone much further then any vanilla marriage ever could. This is like a marriage without the option of divorce. This will carry on into death.

House Collar.

House collars are used in clubs, homes and in organizations that provide social spaces to protect submissives. House collars show that the submissive is under the guidance of the house and is not to be approached. This is often used with inexperienced submissives who are not ready to make their own choices yet and need time to learn.

Cyber Collar.

These are virtual collars often virtually worn by people who have no idea of the real world. They live the life of a Dominant and slave in their imagination. This creation attempts to mimic the real life collar but tends to be exchanged between those who are primarily BDSM cyber fetishers. The presence of the cyber collar and it’s apparent implications for those newly exploring the lifestyle tend to diminish what is a serious exchange in the real world.

Velcro Collar.

Most of us who are in some version of the real time BDSM call it that because of the easy on and easy off attitude. What such a person however seldom seems to realize is that those with Velcro Collars are seldom respected in the BDSM lifestyle community. If you are Mistress or Master today, collared to so and so tomorrow and the next day you are nothing just to return to being collared by another a week later and then suddenly return to dominance all the while wearing various collars from various people, you are a laughable and very pathetic human being. Those types are plentiful and sadly are one of the causes of ridicule for us.



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6 Responses to Types Of Collars

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  • Sir says:

    Very good article. Well composed and written. Simple and to the point… in that the information provided may be factually included into a relationship. Compliments.

  • Jon Morris says:

    I need a mistress to train me so I can become a collared slave,leather collar,that’s my dream,if there’s a mistress out there please help me

  • blank says:

    I’m 17 but I love the BDSM stile so much and I been around the BDSM fetish for about 3 years now, but I don’t know what to type of partner I should be looking for how this works. can I get tips?

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