It is the Holidays Season once again. A time of year full of rituals both religious and pagan, a time of thanksgiving, singing and giving. Holidays is characterized by certain rituals that bring memories through out the years. Rituals anytime are repeated ways we go about doing something that has a meaning, or purpose which when done in a specific way or at a specific time centers us in who we are and what we are about. It brings certain spirituality to our lives and brings a joy to the lives of those performing rituals. Rituals bring us back to how we go about doing what we do.
Some people don’t understand the need for rituals in BDSM. This extends to their lack of understanding of other lifestyle facets such as protocols, etiquette, and manners. They simply don’t see what they are missing by not incorporating ritual and practice into the art and form of BDSM. For them it is just a way to spice up the bedroom and add excitement to a relationship or erotic experience.
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Rituals deepen psychic and spiritual awareness. Our inner selves or subconscious needs ritual and ceremonial behaviors in order to mark and acknowledge significant events. Rituals are an expression of the human need to belong. The performance of the ritual itself prepares the submissive to serve in a way they would not be able to without the simple performance of the ritual. It grounds them, brings them back inside themselves, allows reflection and provides a form and grace to the service they perform.
BDSM techniques can also be performed in ritual fashion. When technique, ritual, and spirituality come together there is form, grace, and beauty to BDSM. It is simply an inner peace of two souls coming together to share a moment in time. A moment suspended in Domspace and subspace, where time stands still, the world whirls by, but nothing else matters except for the bond that is formed.
You may be interested in creating new your own BDSM traditions that involve your chosen lifestyle. No matter what level of BDSM you are into you can make holidays your own with a little planning. You are establishing our own myths/rites/cultural imperatives here. There is no right or wrong way to do anything. For people into control, consider gagging your submissive this holiday. You might be considering wax play, knife play, or even needle play. Play piercing or really getting pierced by a professional in a special area might be right for you, it just depends on your relationship and what makes it tick. You will like it so much it will become a holiday tradition.
When planning your special BDSM holidays festivities you should consider the needs of your relationship. Consider the dynamics of your relationship when creating the customs that will be followed this season. Ultimately, everyone’s customs will be different when it comes to something like this, so you will want to take the ideas you have read here and use them to your advantage this holidays. You can do this by creating new ideas or by reinventing them to work for your own relationship.
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