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Sadism is pleasure in the infliction of pain or humiliation upon another person. This term describes consensual practices, often sexual, but not necessarily so, within the BDSM community. Sadist is one who is aroused, excited, or receives sexual gratification from inflicting pain on another. A sadist does not necessarily take pleasure in inflicting pain indiscriminately; for most sadists, the pleasure relies on knowing that the subject is also enjoying the experience. But these terms may be also used clinically, in psychotherapy, to describe mental illnesses, psychopathology or counterproductive coping mechanisms. Sadism is not necessarily associated with criminality or murder. The term sadist is thrown around very easily, the word itself may send signals, may attract and is quite often used to paint a picture that fits the world of fantasy. A seal, if you like, of quality play to come for some. Forbidden fruit always tastes the best. Some may visualise themselves as sadists but that may not necessarily be the case. They may just be extreme in some areas. Have a particular bent that is somewhat darker. Dread… political correctness, is there are some that fit the definition of a sadist however display the controls within themselves to play safely. There are some that don’t.
The word “sadism” was derived from the name of Donatien Alphonse Francois, better known as the Marquis de Sade, a French author who lived from 1740 to 1814, famous for his works of sexual arousal driven by physical suffering. He was imprisoned without trial as an “administrative punishment”, for fear of scandal, after the publishing of “Justine”, and “Juliette”. Later declared insane he was transferred to Charenton Asylum where in 1814 he died of ill health aged 74. De Sade spent 27 years of his adult life in prisons, dungeons, and asylums throughout France for reasons that included “excesses committed in a brothel”, kidnapping and sexual assault, poisoning, and homosexual sodomy. The German psychologist Richard von Krafft-Ebing in 1898 gave sadism the professional definition: a sexual perversion with strong impulses to coitus, coupled with prepatory acts of maltreatment, even murder (necrophilia, then called “lustmurder”) which occurs primarily because of an inability to be satisfied with coitus.
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Flagellation or flogging is the act of methodically beating or whipping (Latin flagellum, “whip”) the human body. Specialised implements for it include rods, switches, the cat o’ nine tails and the sjambok. Typically, flogging is imposed on an unwilling subject as a punishment; however, it can also be submitted to willingly, or performed on oneself, in religious or sadomasochistic contexts. In some circumstances the word “flogging” is used loosely to include any sort of corporal punishment, including birching and caning. The flogger, in various forms, has played a surprisingly vital role in shaping the history of mankind. Throughout the centuries, our ancestors have incorporated it not only into their sexual practices, but into their spiritual, judicial and even medical practices as well. Flagellation in the name of a god is far from being a rare thing. Nearly all of the mother religions, the ancient mystery cults of the great Mediterranean civilizations of Greece, Egypt, Rome and Persia, and even the religions of Islam and Christianity have, at some point in history, incorporated flagellation into their spiritual rites and practices.
In pagan Sparta each year, during a festival called ‘Day of Flagellations’, young men were brought before an altar dedicated to the goddess Diana where they were whipped for from dusk to dawn. People would turn out from all over the countryside to view the whippings and to cheer and encourage the boys to ‘bear the pain with fortitude.’ Priests, who would bear witness to the entire ceremony, would, at the end of the day, examine the wounds on each of the boys, and, according to the sizes and shapes of the wounds, would predict the young men’s futures. It was not uncommon for some of the boys to die from the terrible wounds inflicted upon them during this ceremony, often without ever having uttered a sound.
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Are there sex differences in masochism? For a long time, this question was asked in relation to Freud’s suggestion that women are more masochistic. Various thinkers, like Helen Deutsch and Theodor Reik, debated whether males or females were the more masochistic sex. This went back and forth for decades.
In retrospect, the whole debate may have been stupid. It is now clear that there are masochists who are men, and there are others who are women. And neither is typical: That is, most men and most women are not masochistic. Masochists are a minority found among both men and women.
But that doesn’t mean that gender is irrelevant. Male masochists and female masochists don’t seem to desire, do, and enjoy exactly the same things. It may be possible to speak of male and female styles of masochism.
Research on these different styles is just beginning. I can tell you roughly how male and female masochists differ. What these differences mean is harder to say. Keep in mind that these are merely broad, general trends, while every masochist is a unique individual, there are many males who are closer to the feminine style than the masculine style, and vice versa. You can make generalizations about masochists, but there are always many exceptions.
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Subspace (also sub space, headspace, flying, or floating) is a specific state of mind that a submissive may enter, particularly after intense activities and/or (depending on the person) intense pain play, characterized by euphoria, bliss, a strong feeling of well-being, or even a state similar to intoxication. Thought to be related to the release of endorphins in the brain. The euphoria associated with subspace may last for hours or sometimes even days after the activity ceases.
Subspace is a metaphor for the state the bottom’s mind and body is in during a deeply involved play scene. Many types of BDSM play invoke strong physical responses. The psychological aspect of BDSM also causes many bottoms to mentally separate themselves from their environment as they process the experience. Deep subspace is often characterized as a state of deep recession and incoherence. Deep subspace may also cause a danger in newer bottoms who are unfamiliar with the experience, and require the dominant to keep a careful watch to ensure the bottom isn’t placing him or her self in danger. Many bottoms require aftercare while returning from subspace.
Subspace is a form of trance. Trance in its essence is a state of being, different from your “normal” state of being. During trance your mind excludes most of its input and concentrates on just one or only very few impulses, completely disregarding all others. Trance is the result of hormonal activity. Hormones are substances in your body, responsible for communication between the brain and the cortex and the rest of the body. For subspace a group of hormones, called “peptides” is important. Peptides are amino acids. Many look like morphine and have attributes, that can be compared to morphine. For subspace endorphins – a group of such peptides – are an important ingredient.
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Male chastity belt (or male chastity cage, or penis prison, or chastity tubes) is a device which encloses the male genitals to prevent stimulation and erection. Chastity tubes or cages, or even piercings, are stimulation prevention devices for males – these popular devices are commonly referred to as “chastity belts”. Ironically, modern male chastity devices are almost exclusively used as a sex aid and in BDSM play. Since most chastity devices effectively prevent masturbation, it means one partner gives the other control of all orgasms. This can be a great deal of fun for both people. A female partner locks her man’s penis into one of these devices. She takes the key to work and leaves it there. The very fact that she now controls when he can enjoy sexual release is a turn-on. Over a fairly short time, most men will be very anxious to get unlocked long enough for a chance to come.
The period from 1850 to 1930 is full of truly strange sexual history. For example, in the 1850’s it became a widely held belief that male masturbation caused insanity. This triggered nearly a hundred years of increasingly demonic inventions designed to prevent young men from playing with themselves or having wet dreams. Male inmates in asylums were routinely fitted with devices to prevent them from making their conditions worse through ejaculation. Males were protected from themselves; prevented from touching and stimulating themselves. Ideally, they were also prevented from nocturnal emissions as well. Today, according to Paul of Access Denied, chastity belt maker, seventy-five percent of chastity belts are for a male wearer. Three quarters of all delivered belts are male belts, and the remaining quarter are female belts. You can read about female chastity belts in our article Female Chastity Belts.
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Breathplay is a form of edgeplay that is a hard limit for some BDSM players. However it comes in many forms and you may find a variety you enjoy. This article discusses the various forms of breathplay, risk and safety and how breathplay feels.
There are many ways you could break down these forms, below breathplay is devided into three categories.
– Compression of the carotid arteries
– Compression of the trachea or wind pipe
These two are often combined, for example when trying to stop bloodflow in the carotid arteries you may be applying pressure to the trachea.
Throttling with the hands and strangling with a rope share the same risks however when using the hands pressure can be controlled more easily. A hanging scene is more dangerous again with the subs body weight applying the pressure to the neck, tip toes will work as well as being off the ground. First the sub needs to be firmly on the ground then the rope removed. You cannot trust that you will be able to remove the rope with your hands. Always have EMT scissors ready. Never drop a sub into hanging as this could damage the spinal cord.
If the purpose is to reach unconciousness a stranglehold is very effective and can achieve this in roughly three seconds. This is much more comfortable for the sub.
– Other play that restricts airflow
Hand over mouth – putting your hand over a partners mouth during sex is probably the most common form of breathplay. The hand can form a tight seal with the option of blocking the nose to increase the intensity. This is a good place to start for beginners to breathplay especially in the missionary position where the Top can watch the bottoms reactions.
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The rack is probably one of the most infamous torture devices since it was in use for a very long time. This device was more of an actual machine than anything. No torture chamber would be complete without the rack, known throughout the world by different names: to the Romans it was “equuleus” (young horse); the French named it “Banc de Torture”, to the Spanish it was “escalera” (ladder), Germany knew it as “Streckbank” (stretching frame) or “Schlimme Liesel” (fearful Eliza), Italians named it “La Veglia” and the British nickname was “the Duke of Exeter’s Daughter”. Whatever the name, it was a fearsome device that broke countless prisoners. Indeed, a person stretched on the rack presented the ultimate spectacle of the body in pain. A victim would often be placed on the rack naked or nearly so, and their taut skin would run with the sweat of their agonies.
Probably the most widely used instrument of torture, the rack is to date back to the ancient Greeks. The basic idea of the rack may have originated in the Greek legend of the giant bandit Procrustes. It was rumored that he possessed a bed made of iron that was the right size for any guest. After luring unwary travelers to sleep on the iron bed, he would stretch them to fit – tall travelers had their legs or head lopped off and fed to a giant tortoise. The rack was used since antiquity, being used on St. Vincent and mentioned by the Church Fathers Tertullian (on extraction of confessions from criminals and on persisting Christian “sacrilegers” against the state religion) and St. Jerome (used on a woman according to his first letter).
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The following missive dedicated to use of stinging nettle in CBT is based on experience. It is clearly not suitable for any one allergic to stinging nettles. Arm yourself with a pair of thick gloves.
Cut down a good quantity of fresh nettles. The best ones are young with pliable stems. A shopping bag full is about fine.
Take a nettle and brush it against the head of your penis. If you haven’t got an erection so far, this should bring one on. It doesn’t hurt much, the sensation is rather good in fact.
Brush some more nettles against your penis, the shaft as well. Gradually a rash will appear and little bumps. Keep going. The more you do, the greater the numbing effect so the next bit will be easier.
Take a handfull of nettles and crush them hard onto your penis. This may hurt, but rub them in well. You can also take a nettle stalk (which is also covered in stingers) and wrap it around the shaft or behind the head. This is a good way of getting the poison in.
Keep going with more nettles. As the poison gets in, the small bumps will join up. This is the desired effect. As you keep on, the bumps turn into a large all over swelling. The more you do, the greater the swelling until your penis will be stretched real tight, bursting against its skin. An increase of about 50% in girth over a normal erection.
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Genitorture is the act of focusing your play on the genitals for pain/pleasure. Female Genitorture (Cunt Torture or Cunt Play) is pain play inflicted on female genitals. This is any form of pain inflicted on the female genitalia as by abrasion, clamping, play piercing, slapping, temperature play, hitting, pinching (with clips or clothespins), electricity, gentle whipping and flogging. Female genitorture is focused play on genital area that can range from sexy, sensuous sensations to intense pain. Everyone can enjoy cunt play whether you are a sensualist, sexual slut, sadist, or masochist.
There are ways of playing with torture of pussy and the experience of being tortured without inflicting pain. For some women feeling/being exposed in public and humiliation are forms of torture. Torture can also be experienced through erotic teasing without orgasms, being made to wait for orgasms, or being made to come over and over again. Feeling out of control and powerless, being restrained, and surrendering to the unknown can also be a form of torture. Psychological control and “mindfucking” can be used in many ways to create fear and terror without actual pain. It’s so much fun! Genitorture can involve role play – medical, captivity, interrogation, training, punishment, etc.
Genitorture is a wonderful arena for sadists and masochists. Intense pain can be caused without much effort on the top’s part. The genital area is very sensitive. If you don’t want to inflict intense pain, tone it down! Things that might be experienced as mild sensations elsewhere in the body can be very intense in the genital area. There are endless ways of easily inflicting pain in a variety of ways. Bottoms never know what’s coming next. Pain should always be on the outside of the body, not inside. Female genitorture primarily focuses on female genitalia: mons pubis, labia, clitoris, vagina, urethra, anus, even the thighs, abdomen and buttocks when doing genitorture. Genitorture can be part of any scene and can be combined with other types of play.
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For over 30 years, the Hitachi has set the standard for personal hand-held massagers. The Hitachi Magic Wand is an electric massager manufactured by Hitachi intended for massaging muscles, as well as erogenous zones. This is a massage instrument designed to reach all those difficult to reach places and give nearly instantaneous relief to tired, sore muscles. But the Hitachi can give you a nice massage as well as a nice orgasm.
The Hitachi Magic Wand first appeared in the 1970s – widely used as a sex toy. It is always advertised as “the strongest vibrator we carry”. This is the most powerful vibration available and one of the most durable sex toys ever made. Many people have had their Hitachi’s for over 10 years and they are still going strong. Some physicians recommend it for women to increase genital sensitivity and enhance arousal.
The Hitachi Magic Wands are wonderful, and evil, toys. It’s strong enough that it works through clothing, but also works with direct contact. You can use it on someone and turn pleasure into torture. Its fantastic for forced orgasms, orgasm denial, use with nipple clamps etc.
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